I am not of the habit of listening to people’s conversations in the matatu (Public transport in Kenya) because I am mostly wearing head phones listening to music or radio. However on this particular day my phone’s battery was low and so I had to save it for more important uses.
So as the matatu was about to leave the stage, two women who I assume were going to Gikomba market got in and sat behind me.
They started talking of how the price of tomatoes and onions has gone up then followed with a rather uncomfortable topic.
Woman 1: Imagine my daughter Wendy has started developing breasts.
Woman 2: How? that is too early, how old is she? 9 years?
Woman 1: Yes she is soon turning 10 . I am so worried about her, children nowadays mature too early.
Woman 2: You should do something about it before idle estate boys start seducing her. You are too young to be a grandmother.
Woman 1: What should I do?
Woman 2: You should point at her breast using a hot wooden spoon. Mama Rose did the same to her youngest daughter, now her breasts have disappeared.
Unfortunately I had to alight without listening to the whole conversation. This however disturbed me the whole day and until now I don’t understand the scientific explanation to what these women were talking about.Unfortunately when I inquired from random people, they confirmed that they had heard of such a practice though they cant clearly explain how it is done and if it is effective.
How does a wooden spoon Mwiko do such wonders if not miracle? That is if it really works. I think there is a lot of ignorance when it comes to human anatomy especially in regards to adolescence. Instead of worrying about a girl’s physical development, I think parents should talk to their children on how to be responsible instead of practicing such a wiered practice.
There should be a serious and more genuine conversation on girl’s sexual activities especially in a country where a vice like rape and defilement has no boundaries. Children who have not even learnt to walk or speak leave alone developing breasts are defiled day and night by both strangers and people they know.
Old defenseless women are no longer safe around strangers at unsafe environment or at home with their grandsons.
My point is, a girl’s growing breasts has very little or no contribution to her sexual behaviour.
Unfortunately, Its not only Kenyan parents who are concerned by their daughters physical change. In my previous article titled ‘Is it a curse to be a woman?’ https://lyneoyugi.wordpress.com/2014/03/05/is-it-a-curse-to-be-a-woman/ I talked of different harmful practices on girls but of relevance to this story is a sad narration of how in Cameroon it is a crime for a young girl to grow breast. Women will not allow their girls to go through adolescent in peace because according to them breasts makes their girls promiscous at an early age. In this country they practice Breast ironing (also known as breast flattening) According Wikipidia, this is the pounding and massaging of a pubescent girl’s breasts, using hard or heated objects, to try to make them stop developing or disappear. It is typically carried out by the girl’s mother who will say she is trying to protect the girl from sexual harassment and rape, to prevent early pregnancy that would tarnish the